{"id":128,"date":"2020-09-09T06:20:50","date_gmt":"2020-09-09T06:20:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/zanazahiro.com\/?p=128"},"modified":"2021-07-15T03:40:02","modified_gmt":"2021-07-15T03:40:02","slug":"everyone-is-in-their-own-private-wars","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/zanazahiro.com\/everyone-is-in-their-own-private-wars\/","title":{"rendered":"Everyone Is In Their Own Private Wars"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"600\" height=\"400\" src=\"https:\/\/zanazahiro.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/private-wars_1.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-131\" srcset=\"https:\/\/zanazahiro.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/private-wars_1.jpg 600w, https:\/\/zanazahiro.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/private-wars_1-300x200.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><figcaption>Photo by&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/@joshuaearle?utm_source=unsplash&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_content=creditCopyText\">Joshua Earle<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap\"><strong>I used to think that among my friends, I was the only one who was suffering from tremendous hardships &#8211; money, health, relationships &#8211; you name it.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Boy, was I wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It did take me some time to realize this &#8211;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Everyone is in their own private wars.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Everyone is wrestling with something.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Knowing this feels liberating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The person who was rude to me might just be having a bad day. Maybe he had been told off by his boss. Or may not have slept well the night before. Or worse, received a call from the hospital.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometimes I can be rude to people around me, too. Unintentionally, of course.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Just as I&#8217;d like people to understand me, I&#8217;d also want to understand people more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I do believe that humans do not want to be intentionally rude or hurtful to others. It&#8217;s just not in our nature.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Humans are fundamentally good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Understanding this will make it easier for us to live our lives. Why? Because life shouldn&#8217;t be spent holding grudges against other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometimes, however, I react quickly when I feel wronged by someone. And usually, I regret having reacted in a way that I shouldn&#8217;t have.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For this reason, I have learnt how to <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/zanazahiro.com\/pauseability-101\/\" data-type=\"page\" data-id=\"316\">Pause<\/a><\/strong>, how to be still, how to stop my impulses, so that I never do or say things that I should never do or say.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I used to think that among my friends, I was the only one who was suffering from tremendous hardships &#8211; money, health, relationships &#8211; you name it. Boy, was I wrong. It did take me some time to realize this &#8211; Everyone is in their own private wars. Everyone is wrestling with something. Knowing this [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"footnotes":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/zanazahiro.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/128"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/zanazahiro.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/zanazahiro.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zanazahiro.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zanazahiro.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=128"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/zanazahiro.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/128\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/zanazahiro.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=128"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}